At one point in our lives, I’m sure we’ve all been the career-driven, ambitious, “#teamnokids” woman. We’ve judged stay-at-home moms for their selflessness and their “mom buns” and even sworn out-loud that would never become us. That was me. Prior to my fiance, I was a workaholic. At one point, I worked three jobs and attended college. I lived alone. My lunch on most days was a pack of M&M’s and a Monster to get me through the rest of the day. On the days I had off from my night job, I would be home at around 9pm and on the days that I was not off, I’d come home at around 2am and wake up by 4am in order to be at work at 5:30am. You see the problem with that? I was so focused on paying the bills and what I thought I wanted out of life, that I didn’t have an actual life. The few times that I went out with friends, I’d come home to take a power nap before needing to get to work. I still remember doing my homework on the trains to and from work. It was hectic.
Fast forward a couple years, my life hasn’t changed much. I work from home and create my own schedule, I attend classes online, design, sew and blog on my spare time and take care of the baby and household. Life is very busy though my schedule is completely flexible. Sometimes being home and not waking up to go to work (outside of the house) feels like I’m not doing enough. Like I need to be out there and at times, I do take it for granted but it’s the same as before. I still do all of the same things, the difference is that I actually get some sleep now. Being a stay- at-home mom is not very different from the career driven women, the tasks carried out are just different. At the end of the day, most career women get satisfaction from pay day or from receiving a new promotion or getting an award. For me, it’s the same. I do all the same things that I did before, except now they are on my own terms and I realize that not all stay-at-home moms do what I do, but keeping a house clean, the kids fed, dinner made, and the laundry washed and folded is a very time consuming task. Stay-at-home moms simply do not get the credit that they deserve. There is so much that goes into our daily lives and just like parenting, there is no clocking out. It is a full time responsibility that goes on and on all year round with no vacations. There are times where I finally get a moment to myself and then realize that something else needed to be done, or the baby needs to be fed, or that I have to hand in an assignment that’s due. Honestly, it never ends.
Looking back if you would have told me a few years ago that I would be here I would probably laughed in your face and told you that you were crazy. Back then, this was not where I wanted to be.”I had my head on my shoulders.” Being a stay-at-home mom was not what I envisioned at all. Now that I’m here, I could not picture myself going backwards. I was miserable. For everyone it’s different though… There are people who really would not want to be where I am, and would be completely terrible at it. Just like there are women who this life is made for. It simply depends on who you are. For me, who I was is not who I am. I’d love to work out of home. Eventually I would love my own office, my own creative space (I’ve always wanted to own a small apartment and live out my Carrie Bradshaw type of life) and I will get there but for now, it’s not so bad. Being a stay-at-home mom is actually really interesting. It’s a challenge in itself but far more rewarding then a paycheck. After all, money gets spent, memories with my child will last a lifetime ❤️