Balance is really hard to find when you have children but moreso when you’re a new mom.
When I found out that I was pregnant I really didn’t give much thought into how my life was going to change or how hard it would actually be to juggle being a new mom and trying to still do all of the things that make me well, me.
I made the mistake of thinking that it would just fall into place… honestly, it never does unless, you make it your mission for it to work. Between blogging, running a business, trying to build a platform, going to school full time, being a mom, and still finding time to read, sew, do my makeup, and so on… it can get a little overwhelming. There are days at a time where I will work off my laptop in my pajamas, while the baby crawls all over me. There are also days where I’ll forget to eat because my focus is on making sure my daughter is fed, bathed, and entertained but also, that tasks aren’t placed on the back burner. It gets very unglamorous, I will say, and extremely tiring. But, in the midst of all of that, I make sure to remind myself to push forward, to stay focused, because I know where I am headed. I always remind myself of how far I’ve come, where I am and where am going to be. It helps to keep me on track.
Having a “why” is so vital to that though.
Pre-baby, I had a general direction as to where I was headed. I knew where I wanted to be and had an idea of which way to go but my vision did not become as clear as it did until I became her mother. For everyone it’s different, but as a #mompreneur, what I do is because of my child. Because I want to provide her the life that I envisioned for myself. Because I want to give her the opportunity to choose whatever door she wants to walk through later in life without worry of what’s on the other side because she knows her mom’s got her. Because eventually, I want to be able to walk into a board meeting with Chloe in hand and not care because I am the CEO.
It can seem selfish to some that I want these things for her but the way I see it, the moment I became a mom, any investment I make will ultimately be for my daughter. Right now, it’s a bit harder for us because she’s still small and I am still building our future’s foundation but I make sure it’s getting done.
There is honestly no right way to do it. My advice is that you just have to find YOUR balance.
The way I find balance for myself? Meticulous planning. Life can get unpredictable with a child BUT by creating a visual of what needs to be accomplished, I’m able to work with the time that she gives me.
Vision boards. It can be a physical item or photos. The goal is to surround yourself with reminders of what you ARE going to accomplish. Make up your mind that you will accomplish those things and work on it: Every. Single. Day.
I also prioritize. What HAS to be done versus what can wait until she falls asleep. You will never get through a 100% of the things you list for yourself every single day but just being able to stay on the right track even if it means only checking off a couple things off a day, is still progress in the right direction.
I’ve heard this phrase once before and I think of it every day: “The goal is not to be busy but to be effective.”
So, I remind myself to focus on the tasks that will propel me forward, even if that means some of my friends have to wait to have their texts answered (sorry guys, I love you). Take care of what you need to take care of. A lot of times it will get so frustrating and you’ll need to do it on your own but never give up because some day you will look back and it will be absolutely worth it. Don’t take my word for it though, try it for yourself! -xoxo